Don’t Give In To The Mean Girl

Day 21 of 31 days of depression.

Maybe it’s just me but when I am feeling down and lousy, I sometimes want to give into my mean girl and lash out. I have. Sadly, I have.

Don’t do it. Don’t give in. Don’t let her out.

I recognize her sooner now. When I’m on Facebook and I want to respond with a snarky comment, I know she’s fighting to be set free. I know the game and I have rules I’ve set in place for myself.

Because when she gets set loose, regrets soon follow. Apologies must be made and humiliation can follow. A moment of satisfaction isn’t worth it because it’s short lived and embarrassing.

Once you give in, it becomes easier and easier to do. Once you start down a road of sin, the enemy amps up and hurls lie upon lie at you and if you are feeling guilty, you will buy into them much faster. Protect yourself.

Does this sound like you? Do you say things you wouldn’t normally say or do things you wouldn’t normally do when you are depressed? Please share in the comments below. You may post anonymously, just use a fake email address. Comment policy still applies. 

Do today:

    • Memorize this scripture: Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! 2 Corinthians 5:17
    • Decide ahead of time what your response and reaction will be when you are facing a mean girl day or time. Put it into action.
    • Writing Prompt: Write out your mean girl frustrations on a sheet of paper and them burn them. Who is your anger really toward or what is it about? Write freely, hold nothing back and often times you can see where the anger stems from. Don’t forget to write what you are thankful for and act on it.  *If you would like a safe and free place to write, try this online journal at Penzu. It is password protected and you can even encrypt the journal if you need to. You can also use a fake name and junk email address for further protection. This way no one at home finds your personal diary entries.
    • Pray: Lord, please help me work through my anger in a healthy way and control my words when I am angry. In Jesus Name, Amen.

“I know my God saved the day!”

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The next 31 days we will be discussing depression and healthy ways to combat it but we’re going to get real too. Because for those of us who wind up in the pit often, we know platitudes and fluff pieces do nothing for us. My expertise is only based on my own very personal battles with depression and is no way, professional or medical advice. Your participation in this series is voluntary and Melinda Todd is not legally responsible for any choices or actions of participants. Participants release Melinda Todd and Trailing After God from responsibility and liability and continue at their own risk and discretion.


  1. This was for me today Mel. I’m so guilty of this. I get into ugly debates and I don’t behave graciously or in a forgiving manner. I need to work on this. You said you have rules in place. Curious if you’d share them?

    • Sure. I have simple rules and most of the time I stick to them but not always. I’m not perfect and I still fail here. My general rule is to hide the conversation that I find upsetting. And then sometimes I have to walk away from the computer completely for a while because it’s a huge temptation to want to argue or be snarky. It works.

  2. For quite sometime I feel that way too.And I feel so upset.Is so hard to struggle.But in God’s Grace I know he would help me to overcome my weaknesses.Thank you for being an inspiration.
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