I admit, today I am worn out and feeling like a grumpapotamous. So, while I’ve started several posts for today, I’m going to sit on them. Because I know they may not be in anyone’s best interest to put them out there. It’s been an emotionally draining week, to say the least.
When I feel like this, I want to push send on “that email” or publish on “that post” or click submit on “that status update” or send on “that one text” and sometimes, I do it.
And in the moment it feels good. Right. Just. Honest.
And then it begins to feel like I just shot myself in the foot. Regret. Humiliation. Stupid. Painful.
Once it’s out there, it’s out there. We can’t take it back, unless we can click delete before anyone sees it! The damage is done and we’ve become our own worst enemy.
While I use caution when I speak out loud to others, I’m not always as careful with my fingertips and the keyboard. Can anyone relate to this? Tell me I’m not alone here!
It’s so much easier to hide behind my computer where I can’t see someone’s response. Can’t see the hurt in their eyes or the tears that may fall. Or to totally avoid their anger and frustration.
It’s just so much easier!
And so much more dangerous!
God says the tongue is wicked and starts fires. I think perhaps the tongue via the written word is even more so. It carries so much weight when written. Because not only does it leave the door open to say more than we should or would in person, it documents what we’ve done and said.
Eek! Does that make your stomach roll like it does mine?
How many times have each of us done just that? We’re frustrated with righteous indignation or grumpy with an extra dose of baditude and we allow ourselves to push the button and change things for the worst?
What do we do when we feel that inner force trying to seep out and into our words? Walk away. And pray.
Walk away, until.
Until you no longer feel the need to fuel that righteous indignation or shoot off that nasty text message.
And that means something that glorifies God. Not until you do that something you’re going to regret and apologize for later.
If you find yourself past the ugly part; you’ve already hit the send button and the damage is done, repent. Even if you were in the “right” about the situation, you need to ask forgiveness for how you handled yourself.
We own our words and our own actions. Apologize and ask forgiveness and then leave the rest in God’s hands. You don’t control how someone else responds to the apology.
How do you deal with temptation to push send on a day when you are feeling a wee bit snarky? Share in the comments below.
Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble. Proverbs 21:23