When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.
“My husband is an idiot!”
“Ohhhh you’ll never believe what he did this time!”
“Why would he do something so stupid?”
These are just a few of the things I’ve heard in public and at church. It makes my skin crawl. We live in such a “woman power” world anymore that this seems to be the normal and acceptable way to discuss our husbands. Can you imagine if our husbands spoke about us like that? I’d be humiliated.
More than 80% of men feel disrespected by their wives when they are in a disagreement. I’m certain that number jumps to 100% when the disagreement is taken to a public arena, where it doesn’t belong. Imagine the gossip sessions your husband could have about you and how that would make you feel.
What you say about your husband leaves a lasting impression. For one, it’s disrespectful. Two, you will go home and hopefully resolve your conflict but it may not be resolved in the mind of whom ever you shared with. They now have a negative picture of your husband in their mind that isn’t easy to erase.
So I ask you sisters to refrain from disrespecting your husband when you are feeling frustrated with him. I know it’s hard – I’ve done it too. The bottom line is, I have a great husband and I don’t want to ruin his reputation because of something private that went on between us. Just like I’d want him to respect me by not sharing my mistakes with his buddies.
Recommended reading and data from studies:
For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men
Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33
Have you witnessed women disrespecting their husbands in public? How does it make you feel? Have you disrespected your husband in public?
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