She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. Proverbs 31:26
After dealing with a difficult situation, I spent some serious alone time with God. Okay, I put up my dukes and God just told me to hold on a second. I could just hear Him, “Don’t you make me come down there, Mel!”
I spent an entire day pretty ticked off about the whole situation.
How dare he/she think they should be allowed in my home!
Why would they think that is okay?!
And then I started to beat myself up.
If I’ve really forgiven them, should I be feeling this way? Am I a liar? Hypocrite?
I asked for prayer and I got on my knees. And here is what God told me.
It is okay to say no. I have permission to say no without apology. It is okay to say no without explanation. Did you hear that friends? No is enough. No is a complete sentence. We don’t have to be unkind in saying no but no is all that has to be said.
Forgiveness is a work the Lord does in our hearts. It’s between He and I. It sets my heart free but it does not mean that I forget what happened. It doesn’t mean throwing caution to the wind and allowing a dangerous person access to my home or children.
You see, I have no ill will towards this person. I do not wish to hurt them. They are not however, entitled to my life.
Was it easy to tell them no? No, but I felt so much stronger after being honest. For once the truth was told. No burying our heads in the sand and pretending. And for once, I put my people pleasing aside, and I did not apologize for telling them that it was not reasonable for them to come to my home for a visit. I have complete peace now.
Tomorrow I will share the second lesson God’s been sharing with me! Stay tuned, it’s good! In fact, I’m so excited about it, I’m going to have a hard time holding off posting it until tomorrow 🙂