Valentine’s day. It’s just not that important to us as a couple. Maybe because my birthday is four days later and our anniversary a week after that. Perhaps because it’s so commercialized. I’m not sure but neither one of us cares for the added pressure it can put on a couple to get it “right”.
There’s no right in our book. We’ve never had the money to do anything extravagant and that’s okay with both of us. My heart goes out to those men who know this is a performance check for their wives. If you are one of those women who expects something super fantastic on V-day, can I ask you to reconsider why there is such importance on this one day, verses any other time? Is it a test to see if he really loves you? A chance to show off to your friends the new jewelry you received? Or is it really about the love of your life? If it’s about the love, then the gifts don’t matter and are not needed.
Here is why I love my beloved husband (who is enough w/o offering gifts):
– He makes breakfast on the weekends
– He has lightened my load significantly so that I can stay sane and also write
– If I want to go out with my girlfriends, he says GO
– He encourages
– He cleans and does laundry
– He’s a great cook
– He is a HARD worker, even when he’s sick
– He plays with our kids, all the time
– He buys marriage books (and reads them) and invests in us
– He attends church and enjoys it
– He still finds me beautiful, even when I don’t like my body
– He takes one child to DQ every Friday night to spend one-on-one time with them
– He’s stood by my side for 17 1/2 years, even through my ugly days (dark depressed, suicidal days)
– He is in this for the long haul
I won the lottery with this one! ♥
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 1 Cor 13:4
