Just Another Birthday

God keeps tugging on my heart with this song – February is my birthday month. This is my song. Waiting. Hoping. Praying. Crying for my daddy to call me. See me. And get clean and sober. I wanted it more than anything in this world.

I wanted his attention so much. But he wasn’t well enough to be the father I know he wanted to be deep down. And the missing him in my life was a gaping hole in my heart. Little girls want a Daddy to protect them, hold them, and tell them they’re a beautiful princess.

Are you missing this in your life? Hurting from missing your earthly Daddy? Arms that ache to hug him? Words longing to be spoken into his ear?

Sweet sister, can I offer you a cyber hug and prayer? And best of all, hope?

Your earthly father may not be able to love you in the way you want and need – though I never give up hope for change there – but your heavenly Father loves you more than any human man ever could or will. Ever. Always.

He can fill the hole in your heart. He wants to.

Nothing can separate you from the love of God. No powers. No circumstance. No mistake. No angels. No demons. Nothing in all creation. Nothing. Romans 8:37-39

So many things can separate us from our earthly Daddies but nothing can separate us from God’s love.

Have you asked Him to be part of your life? If not, do so right now. No fancy prayer necessary. No appointment. Just simply ask Him to be part of your life and save you.

And if you know Him, ask Him to refresh your spirit and comfort those father wounds.

* You can read more of my story with my Daddy here: Redemption of Hearts and I Need A Daddy.

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[a] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:37-39

Can I pray for you? Is there a father wound you are trying to work through? Leave a comment below.


Mel signature



  1. My father has been physically present all my life but that is it. An active alcoholic he has been emotionally, verbally and physically abusive. He has 5 daughters and has never protected us. According to him, anything bad that’s happened to us is our own fault and anything good is undeserved. He is now 84 and in failing health. He continues to drink and will not accept any help for health care and has told us to mind our own business. My has Alzheimers and is in a care facility. Thankfully she no longer lives with his abuse. Yesterday he was discharged from the hospital and he told all of us to leave him alone. At this point, I am more than willing to honor his request. As a recovering alcoholic myself, I know he is absolutely miserable (btw – he has been in treatment numerous times) and I struggle with how to show Christ’s love to him. I will continue to pray for him but don’t want to be around him. Thank you for posting this song and reminding me who my real Father is.

    • Jan, I’m so sorry. I will add your father to my prayer list. It’s so hard to watch them self destruct and be abusive.

  2. Bless you Mel for this wonderful post…much love and many prayers.

  3. Melinda, Thanks for sharing from your heart. I don’t think you or I, or Jan (above) are alone in difficult relationships with our dads. I wished for so long to hear “I love you” or to get some kind of affirmation from my father, but he just doesn’t know how. Now that he is older and in failing health, there is so much I wish he would do to help himself, but he refuses to change old habits. Like you, I am so grateful for our heavenly father who gives us what we did not get from other people. One thing I’ve done that really, really helped is to identify the positive things I’ve learned from living with my dad, like how a parent’s anger and selfishness affect kids. I’ve made a conscious effort to give my kids all the verbal affirmation I can as I result of what I lacked. I’ve watched what poor habits have done to his health so I continue to take steps to take the best possible care of myself. By focusing on how being his daughter has caused me to grow in positive ways I can be more understanding and empathetic with him.
    Susan Scott recently posted..The secret to Overcoming Emotional Ups and Downs

  4. It’s always wonderful to be offered hope. I was blessed to have a loving father growing up, but I’ve seen so many who were not. And while nothing can change the past, God does offer hope for the present and future by being the ultimate Father himself. Thanks for sharing this.

Comments are closed