We are experts at judging, aren’t we? Ever since the Duggars hit the television, the judging of their family has been atrocious. Mention the Duggars and you can guarantee a debate and ugly things being said about their family.
And to be honest, I simply don’t get it.
There family is large, that makes them unusual. Got it. But the disgust they attract from others? Don’t get that.
They are completely debt free and were before they became reality tv “stars”. How many can say that? Debt free with 19 children? What does that really say about them?
We’re not paying for their children. They are not on welfare or any other assistance. Instead, they are wise with their money. Genius, really. If you can raise that many children without debt, you’re smart.
Their children are required to help out. This is how families used to be. We seem to have moved away from this in the past few generations. It’s more common now that children are handed more than they need, given a cellphone and a car without having to work for them and then boomerang back as young adults because they are not prepared for the real world. This family is raising children who can take care of themselves. They know how to do necessary chores to survive.
They believe their children are a gift and a blessing. They are raising Christ followers and a small army of them at that. Hallelujah!
And they are happy. Of course it could be for show but they appear to be a genuinely happy family. Their friends attest to this. I think I’d enjoy being friends with Michelle. I bet she could teach us a lot.
What gets my goat the most, is the recent comments that I keep seeing about the loss of their 20th child. A baby girl named Jubilee. She lost a child and some feel the need to be down and dirty, ugly. Some of the most hateful things I’ve ever read. I hope that this family doesn’t read them. Because to say something cruel and hateful over the loss of someone’s child, is sick. There is something very wrong at the core of a human being who spews hate to a mother who has lost a child. I pray something changes their hearts.
When we go about judging their family because we don’t agree with it or don’t understand it, perhaps we should take a step back and evaluate how we might feel if someone said those sorts of things about our own family. Do your hackles go up just imagining it? Mine sure do.
We could talk about them putting their family in the lime light. I’m not sure I would do that myself but it’s really none of my business. The public poses a great risk of abusing their children because of the negative nature of some. Have they thrown their pearls to the pigs as Matthew 7 goes onto describe? I don’t believe so and only time will tell. Again, it’s not my place to decide that for them.
If their lifestyle outrages you, maybe, just maybe, you should turn away when their story pops up. There are children being abused, beaten, and sold into sex trafficking every day right here in the USA. Fight for those kids. Turn your anger toward something beneficial and constructive.
Above all, have a heart. We all have things in our lives that we don’t want to be judged for. Our family is at the very top of that list. Let’s grant the very same grace to this family that we would desire for our own. And never, ever under any circumstances be ugly about the loss of someone’s child.
So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. Matthew 7:12
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