16 years ago today, I married my high school sweetheart. And for six years after that, I sometimes wondered if I’d made a mistake because I married an unbeliever. I honestly couldn’t see a future that had Christ in the center of our home.
I wasn’t exactly an exemplary Christian. I did my own thing as a young adult, while praying for change, help, healing, and rescue. That’s the American way, right? Do what you want and pray when things get out of control. And thankfully, God meets us right where we are.
Before our second son was born, my husband became a believer. Ten years ago, we started attending church. Together. As a family.
God’s been amazingly gracious to us. Our lives aren’t perfect now. We still argue about dumb things and struggle with life but we’re different.
I tell you this not to rub it in, if you are in a marriage where you are unequally yoked, but to give you hope. Keep praying. Keep seeking Him for your marriage.
The best advice I can give you, if your spouse doesn’t believe is this: Don’t Nag! Don’t beg your spouse to go to church. Don’t rub your spirituality in their noses. Don’t guilt trip.
Ask God to lead their heart to Him. That’s His job anyway, and He will do it with perfection. You continue what you are doing. If you Lord your Christianity over your spouse, I guarantee they will continue to run and harden their heart.
It’s not easy. I know, I’ve been there too. It’s lonely to sit in the church pew, alone. It’s sad when you want more for your family. I often prayed that God would bring faithful Christian men into my husband’s life and that he’d be open and listen. God did just that.
When it gets to you, get on your knees. Hang tough. You love them and want God to capture their heart. How much more does God want their heart?
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Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 1 Peter 3:1-7