Gal 6:10 So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.
When we feel wronged, do we react with respect? Especially if we are wronged by other believers? I see groups of believers attacking each other regularly online. It gets really ugly, really fast. Of course, it’s not just believers who have this issue. It’s a problem that goes back to the beginning of time and isn’t going to go away any time soon.
Our own pride puts us into the fight cage. We like to be “right” and if we season it with the right biblical wording, we can prove we are in the right, and then sprinkle in a blow or kick here and there to get our point across. I’m not immune to this and I’m certain you’re not either.
I don’t like to be wronged, but what I have discovered lately that sits far above being wronged, is being controlled. I do not like feeling like I don’t have control over my own choices and body. I still have crazy nightmares where I am fighting with my mother over control and power. Just ask my husband how I behave when I think I am being bossed. If I feel like my choices are being taken from me, I dig my heels in deep like a stubborn mule.
Every time our heels dig in, it doesn’t mean we’re doing something sinful. But it can and we should be aware. There are times where we should dig in and refuse to compromise. When God puts us into a situation we don’t like, it is to grow us. When we are placed into conflict with a fellow believe we have a very delicate situation in which we can choose to make it better or to make it bitter.
Does there need to be a gentle confrontation at some point? It’s not always wise in the heat of the moment. Maybe someone treated you in a way that was very unkind. If you can do it right away without it turning into a big ugly ordeal, you should. It could be as simple as saying, “The way you spoke to me a few minutes ago really hurt my feelings.” and other times it will require more time and work. Weigh the choices before you press on. Some problems will require time and a great deal of prayer.
If you allow a situation that upset you to fester, it will take on a life of it’s own. It ruins relationships and seeps poison into our hearts. If allowed, bitterness is a serious poison to our bodies but worse, our relationship with God. We can’t approach the throne in purity and honesty because the thorn in our side will pinch, burrowing further in and distract.
Are you wrestling with a sticky situation? Pray about it. When you think you have figured out what you are supposed to do, pray some more. If it’s a really tough situation, seek godly counsel (not your girlfriends in a gossip session but a mentor or pastor who can give you sound and biblical advice).
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Gal 6:9
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Updated: November 28, 2012