Psalm 38:6-9 – I am troubled; I am bowed down greatly; I go mourning all the day long. 7 For my loins are filled with a loathsome disease: and there is no soundness in my flesh. 8 I am feeble and sore broken: I have roared by reason of the disquietness of my heart. 9 Lord, all my desire is before thee; and my groaning is not hid from thee.
The Lord likes to work in themes in my life, likely in all of our lives. One that keeps popping up is depression. I’m sure at some time or another, we all suffer from it but some of us will battle it more often than we’d like to say.
Why, if this is such a part of life, whether it be long term or for a short stint, no one wants to talk about it in the open? Sure, my girlfriends come to me when they start to feel it creeping in because they know it’s a battle for me but when pretty much every friend I’ve ever had has now come to me with their story, I have to wonder why we aren’t talking about this out in the open and especially in our churches.
The dangers of keeping our secret is that it becomes an easy foothold Satan uses to tell horrific lies to our hearts and minds. If there ever was a foothold for him, this is I think one of the bigger ones. We end up feeling alone and loneliness leads to more dangerous thoughts. Pretty soon if not put in it’s place, the suicidal thoughts start to creep in.
You’re not good enough for God to love you.
Everyone hates you anyway, you’ll be doing everyone a favor by ending it.
Do you really think anyone will care if you’re gone?
See? No one has called you to see if you are okay because no one cares if you are around.
Pretty scary huh? How many of you have had those thoughts? Will you admit it? Or is it so shameful that we all keep it a deep, dark secret because we know we’ll be looked at differently.
Some folks will look at you like you have a third eyeball. They’ll treat you as though you are a sick child and talk down to you. Some well meaning Christian friends may even tell you that you need to read your bible more, pray harder, and admit to some secret sin.
While those are good suggestions, for someone rolling around and wrestling with the devil down in the pit, it can be some of the worst things said. Those suggestions can often be seen as a confirmation in the mind of someone who is mentally battling very ugly, hurtful, dark thoughts.
See, even so-and-so knows you’re a loser. You’ll never get this Christian walk figured out because you’re a big fat useless loser.
If someone is open enough to actually share their secret thoughts with you, honor them. Don’t give out advice right then. What you can do is say, “I’m so sorry. What can I do to help you right now?” and follow through. If you don’t do what you say, the depressed mind will tell that person, “See, no one really cares about you. They won’t even help you when you ask for it.” Don’t feed the lies by flaking out. This need has to be met. It is essential to feel that there are people who want life for the depressed individual.
Don’t forget to pray fervently for the depressed. I will continue this series this week because it weighs heavy on my heart.
If you are suffering from depression and need prayer, please contact me through the contact form above. If you feel comfortable, go ahead and leave a comment so our community can pray for you. You can also post on our Facebook page and our lovely friends will pray over you as well. You are not alone. Depression isn’t new, in fact it is in the bible multiple times! You can’t fight this alone. Trust me.