My mom is always telling me I’m too sensitive. Maybe I am but she’s always making rude or sarcastic comments that sting. I try to ignore it but eventually it wears me down. If I try to say anything, we end up in a big fight. I’d appreciate any advice.
~ Insensitive Mom ~
Dear Insensitive Mom:
I can relate, I have heard that from others too. It’s hard not to snark back when the sarcastic comments come our way. When you two aren’t arguing, try sitting down with her and talking to her about it. If she can try to hold back the comments, you can try harder not to be upset by them. Ask her if she means to be funny by the sarcasm or is she being passive/aggressive in order to get her point across? Her motives may help you avoid having your feelings being hurt. And when she does say something that is rude, you can say, “Mom, did you mean for that to sound the way it came out?” I hope she is willing to try and work this out with you. If not, you may need to decide how much of it you can handle and when/if you will say anything when she makes a comment. If she really hurts your feelings, it’s okay to tell her so. Then take a walk and pray about the situation to give you both time to cool down.
I look forward to hearing the reader advice on this one!
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