How do you honor a husband who does not honor you?
Where is the peace that surpasses all understanding in this situation as with any situation that arises where God does not seem to be present? The thought that have been in the back of my mind and are screaming their way out now…are they right? Do we make excuses for God? Cause there has been no answer in these situations, and I can’t hold on much longer.
~ Dishonored ~
There are so many potential answers to this question. My first thought is that what I am about to say does NOT apply to a situation where you are being abused; mentally, emotionally, or physically. Honoring a spouse that dishonors you is a huge challenge. One that is not taken lightly, even by God. Men are clearly told to honor and love their wives in the bible.1 Peter 3:7, Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 5:28
But what is a wife to do when the husband does not abide by God’s word? Is your husband a believer? Can you seek Godly counsel together? In 1 Peter 3:1 wives are told to be submissive to their husbands, so that any who are non-believers will be won over by your behavior, not your words. Continue to try to win him over by your actions. And pray, pray, and pray.
If he is unwilling to go to counseling, go see your pastor. He can give you sound biblical advice and pray for you both. If anything, you need someone safe to talk to and he will likely have some more ideas on ways to win your husband over.
Please don’t think God is not with you. It may be hard to see now but I guarantee that He is there and He is at work. I prayed for 8 very long years that my husband would become a believer. I never preached to him. I invited him to church with our son once in a while and I prayed. God brought other Christian men into his life that were bold enough to talk to him about their faith and to answers his questions. He’s been a believer now for over 9 years. I had to wait on God’s timing and as always, it was perfect.
Now you have folks praying for your marriage! That’s very powerful! I will be praying that God will bring some good, solid Christian husbands into his circle so that he can see that he’s not treating you right. Don’t give up!