Claim Your Freedom Through Forgiveness

This is an excerpt from my book, How I Forgave My Molester. While my book is about sexual abuse, the content is truly on forgiveness and the biblical principals can be applied to any situation where forgiveness is needed.

How To Claim Your Healing

~ It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.
Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1 ~

I pray that this booklet and story gives you hope for peace. If my readers can find some measure of healing by reading my story, then that would be the best gift I could ever be presented with from my life and pain.

Not everyone will feel compelled to forgive his or her abuser, but this is what worked for me. I pray you will go on this journey with me and that you can claim victory!

God knows you can and He’s going to be there celebrating with you when it happens. And so will I!

The value of forgiving will bless you and set you free from the bondage you have with your abuser and that is the ultimate goal. Take your power back. As long as you hold any feelings, other than forgiveness towards them, you give them control over your life. They’ve taken enough from you. Don’t give them anymore!

The big question for me truly came down to trust, so I want to lovingly and gently ask you, my precious reader, are you ready to believe and trust that God is enough? That He and only He can truly set you completely free? His word says you are set free.

Galatians 5:1 says: It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Do you see that? For freedom we have been set free. It doesn’t stop there, does it? No, it continues to say, “Do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” A yoke of slavery!

The pain, trauma, and unforgiveness you are carrying around right now are a yoke of slavery. But they don’t have to be. Honest. You can let them go and enjoy your life.

Take your pain to the foot of the cross. Leave it there once and for all. The blood that Jesus shed will cover it. It already has. Once you have left it, don’t come back for it. Trust Jesus to be enough. He is enough. He’s it.

Dear Sweet, precious child of God. Come closer. Can you hear Him whispering truth in your heart? You can be healed. You can be whole and pure again! There is complete redeeming power in the sacrificial blood of The lamb. You can take back your power. You can move forward. And you can have peace in your heart and in your life. Jesus has already set you free, now you need to claim it!

While you complete each step, please be in prayer and memorizing Scripture at the same time.*

* What area do you need to tackle forgiveness? Something from your past or your present?


  1. I am currently struggling with forgiving my ex-stepmother. She is evil incarnate. Truth is, I don’t want to forgive her. I pray about this daily. I have told God that I don’t want to forgive her, to please soften my heart toward her and let me see her through His eyes. I’ve told God that I want to see her fall flat on her face in all that she does, and that if vengance is His, then I want to be there to see Him take it. Then I FORCE myself to pray for her. I pray that God will reveal Himself to her in a powerful way. That He would show her her own heart, that she would see the brevity of it and take the chance for repentance. I pray that He would show her that she is worth more than the sex and men that she uses to measure herself against.
    I do mean what I pray, but I do not love her. I have no desire to EVER lay my eyes on her again, and I will NEVER again put myself in a position to be back in the line of fire. I would love for her to hear my 5 year old child ask me why Nana doesn’t love him anymore, cause it rips my heart out. I do not bad mouth her to my son. In his mind, she will always be his nana until he is old enough to understand what happened. But it still kills me when he asks. Help me pray about this please, because I know I can’t forgive her on my own. After nearly three years of no communication with her (and it will remain that way) she has recently began to leave little droppings (if you will) right in my path…just to let me know she is there, and though this doesn’t really bother me, I am terribly afraid that with any further prompting, I will not be able to hold my tongue.


    • Oh Angela, I do understand. Can I encourage you to write letters to her that you’d never send? Just say it all and then burn it or what ever you choose to do. Bottling all that junk up eats at us and puts us on edge. And when you are finally able to forgive her, you do NOT have to have her back in your life. It’s okay to protect yourself from those who hurt you. Forgiveness can take time, a lot of time. Keep praying. You’re on the right track. I know it is hard. I really do!

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