Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
Most of us have one that is dominant above the rest. Can you guess what mine is? A hint, it has to do with words! Yeah, I’m totally a words of affirmation girl.
Here’s the definition of Words of Affirmation:
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
It’s how love speaks to my heart the deepest and how I love others. But it’s also how others can hurt me the deepest, clear to the bone marrow. Do you know who knows your love language probably better than you do?
Oh, he knows it, and you can bet, he’s going to use it. For me he will use it right here on this blog or on the facebook fan page. Those mean-spirited comments that are left by someone having a really rotten day and decide they disagreed with something I wrote. Those cut, but they cut deeper when they come from a sister in Christ or family.
Knowing your own love language and your family member’s love languages can be very empowering and helpful but if not used in the right way, they can be used to destroy and tear down. Our intimate knowledge of another’s love language comes with responsibility.
Since words of affirmation are my love language and how I show love to others, it’s baffling to me, when others are less careful with their word choices and sling words around like a sword, not caring who they stab and slice in the process. So long as they get their point out there. Often times, I hear, “Well I’m just blunt, deal with it.” To that I could easily say,”I’m not, so deal with it.” Be blunt. There are times and places blunt is awesome but do so with caution. Words wound.
On the flip side, I can go for the jugular with my words. I have, it’s not pretty. Afterward, I feel dirty and sick to my stomach.
Who ever made up that childhood phrase, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” missed the mark in a big way! I’d rather have a broken bone over a masacre of words. Bones heal. Words sink into the brain’s crevices and record and then play like a broken record. Cruel words take serious effort to fight off and keep off. I do my best to not participate in the mean girl game. No one ever wins.
I encourage you today to take the five love languages assessment and then come on back and share your main love language if you’ve never done it.
Then for the next few weeks, see if the enemy doesn’t try to use your more dominant love language to get to you. Proceed with your armor. He’s always ready for a fight, make sure you don’t go in blindly.
I would love to hear how this experiment pans out, so please come on back and share your experience! If we get enough response, we can do a link up for it. I strongly feel we’re all going to really be surprised by what happens.
I pray that opening our eyes to this area, might help us in the battle. As a wise friend shared with me, don’t wallow with the pigs. If someone hits ya in the love language department, try to let it go. Take it to the Lord cause He can love you perfectly! He already does!
The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. James 3:6