Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 2 Corinthians 6:19-20
The topic of modesty gets brought up quite a lot in the Christian world. It’s one of those areas we’ll never all fully agree on because my line for modesty won’t match someone else’s.
We should each work to protect our own marriage but do we help protect other marriages? What do I mean, you ask? Well, let’s start with modesty.
Do you dress in a way that attracts men to stare at you? I’ve heard numerous Christian men say that if they see bare skin out of the corner of their eyes, without thinking, they tend to look. Does that mean we should be in long sleeved turtle necks and skirts that touch our feet? My personal answer is no, though of course there are people who might say yes.
One day at church, my husband was filling out a form on a table, when he looked up to hand it over, he got a full on view down a young woman’s dress. She was bent over writing on the other side of the table. I sincerely doubt that she was bent over like that on purpose or even aware that her dress was so extremely revealing – although if you wear a dress with a giant hole above your breasts, you should probably be aware that you’re going to be showing too much when you bend over.
Shouldn’t we be a little more aware of those things? With the warmer weather coming soon (or so we hope here in Oregon) we do need to put a little thought into how much we are showing off.
Our men are flashed with skin through the media all the time, let’s try not to be a live temptation to them as well.
A quick check in the mirror will allow you to see just how revealing a dress, skirt, shirt, or tank top truly is. If you were bent over a table, could someone see completely down your top? Check the lengths of your skirts and dresses as well. Just being aware of how much or how little movement you should allow yourself in a certain outfit, should help.
Why should you even care about how much skin you show?
Well, think about how you’d feel if it were your husband getting a nice flash from someone you see regularly, especially a close friend of yours. I don’t know about you, but I’d like to have my husband’s eyes for me only. Second, because we shouldn’t be tempting another person to sin.
One friend shared with me how one attractive woman in her life (a Christian friend no less) dressed in such tiny tops and short shorts, that she knew her husband was drawn to notice when their families were together. Her husband was already struggling with other temptations and this just felt like it compounded the problem. She didn’t know what to do or say.
Are we totally responsible for all of it? No. Clearly the men need to take responsibility and try to limit the opportunities for their eyes to wander or be drawn. We can certainly help by being just a little bit more aware.
What do you think? Does it bother you at church when other women dress in a revealing fashion? What would you say to a Christian friend who was dressing too provocatively? Is there a point we take this too far?