Are You A Stumbling Block?

Are you a stepping stoneTherefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way. Romans 14:13

Are you a stumbling block or a stepping stone for others and their faith?

It’s a question that I honestly know the answer to for myself.  I’d love to say I am always a stepping stone and am one who helps others grow and mature to get to where God wants them but I know who I am and I know that I am a stumbling block sometimes.

When things aren’t going well, I am a grumbler.  Plain and simple.  I admit it.  It’s one of the things I really dislike about myself and am really trying to work on.  Which of course means God is going to give me many chances to work on this. That’s how it works, isn’t it?  There have been lots of instances to practice this lately with an unexpected shock at home.

The shock that came last month, was my bio father going before the parole board to ask them to consider “rehabilitating” him so that he could be eligible for parole.  We were told numerous times that he was serving a life sentence.  This came as a big, unpleasant surprise.  We rallied folks to write letters begging the parole board to not let this man out.

Not only that but my mom wrote a letter and she contacted the attorney of the victim’s family and wrote a detailed sworn declaration about her abuse with him.  After 35+ years, my Mom reclaimed her power from this man!  She said it made  her feel empowered!  Sweet!  Go God!  This would have never taken place without him trying to come up for parole! * To learn more about this story, read When God’s Voice Is As Clear As Lightning *

His hearing was continued because of the out cry of the community.  We will find out what they decide on August 17th.  We are praying that they keep him in prison and keep the rest of the community and our family safe.  (Update, DENIED but he can reapply in 2 years)

Sometimes we may get off course but God ALWAYS offers us another trail to loop us back into where we are supposed to be.  Even if it takes 35+ years to see some of the end results.  We don’t fail in life.  We learnWhat you may see as a failure, God will most certainly use to build you or someone else up.

Are you feeling like you’ve royally messed up?  Will you turn this unfortunate event into a stumbling block for others or will you persevere and become a stepping stone? God may use those folks who never seem to fail but I honestly believe that those who royally screw up, are used even further for His work when they use their mess to glorify God.  Think about some of the men in the bible who God used to completely glorify Himself.

David?  He became a King, had an affair with another man’s wife and then sent the husband off to war and had him killed. Why would David do such a thing?  To cover up his sin. God could have eliminated this story from the bible.  He could have let us think David was this amazing and perfect servant of God but He chose not to.  He wants us to see that He can and will use us, even when we mess up.  Big time!

Become a stepping stone, instead of a stumbling block. If you are suffering with a mistake, make it right.  Fight back.  The devil wants to take you down but God wants to build you up.  He wants to use you in a mighty way!

Romans 8:28

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

How can you use your life to honor God and help others? Are you already doing that? How?

* Updated June 22, 2011


  1. Melinda, I love this post! How is your fight against grumbling going all this time later? It really is true, isn’t it? When we confess our sins and admit our shortcomings and failures to one another, that truly is the first step and gives us the courage, accountability and motivation to overcome through Christ Jesus! I pray to not be a stumbling block, but to be a stepping stone!

    • I’m doing better! I am much more aware of it so I try not to do it but I have my moments 🙂

  2. It’s so true, isn’t it? We can be doing really well and then BOOM!, something happens and we realize that we need to work on ourselves more. Self-examination is a good thing… but sometimes a hard thing.

    Oh, so happy to hear about the parole being denied. I pray that if he truly changes, it will be seen and responded to appropriately and in the meantime that he will stay where he is so others will be safe. {{hug}}

    • Sadly, change has not happened. He’s been pretty ruthless since it all went down and has no remorse for his crimes. Everyone is safer with him where he is now.

  3. mel God is awesome he has lead me right to you … and this post really opened my eyes I want to be used by God and to allow him to use me the things i chose that God can use to help others to know theres away out .we don’t have to stay messed up we don’t have to believe the lies saten throws our way .We all can be used for his kingdom.thank you for another great post … thank you God !!

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