Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2
Do you have an accountability partner? I don’t. And lately, I am realizing that I need to have one. Do you know why we need an accountability partner? How hard is it to find one?
I know why I need an accountability partner. I mean, duh, right? To keep us accountable. But I find that it’s easier to say those words than to actually live them. I know I need someone who can say, “Hey, how’s it going with xyz this week?” or “How much time did you actually spend online not working this week?” or “Did you swear this week?”
I know in my mind and heart that I need to have that and I know it can’t be my husband who is my accountability person. Why? Because I wouldn’t respond well to it. I’m hard headed. If he were the one to say, “Oh are you supposed to eat that cookie?” or something similar, I’d probably rebel and eat ten cookies instead of one. It would likely cause some issues for us.
While I need that accountability, it scares me. Yep, terrifies me even. Because it means letting someone possibly judge me but more importantly, it means letting someone else ask me about my hang-ups weekly. Who wants to do that? Not me. That’s probably why I’ve resisted it for years. I’m a fairly open person when I feel comfortable but there are still skeletons in my closet that I don’t want others to know about because they are humiliating.
What happens if this friend and I stop being friends? She will then know all of my very personal stuff and could use it to gossip. That’s a big one for me. That’s THE big one for me. Friendships fall apart. It happens.
But as I’ve been toying with this concept and praying about it, I realize once again, it comes down to me trusting God. Do I trust Him to bring the right person into my life for this very purpose? If I pray fervently, will He let me down? And so what if my secrets are gossiped about! What if my secrets help someone else not feel so alone and isolated? What if…
Are you playing the what if game with this topic too? Do you have an accountability partner? If not, why not? If so, how does that work for you? Any advice on finding that “right” person? Do you think that person should be a friend?