Waiting On Spring

ducklings3232012 by melindatodd, on Pix-O-SphereIt’s spring break here in Oregon. Which means one thing where I live and that’s mostly rain. Every few weeks we get one really gorgeous day to tease our senses and leave us hoping for spring.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! 2 Corinthians 5:17

Spring always reminds me of this verse. God’s promise that He is making a new creation in us and the old has gone. As barren trees produce new buds, empty flowerbeds spring forth with new life, and the birds sing a new song, God reminds us what lays ahead of us.

Hope.

What does spring mean to you? Do you see hope? Or something else? Share in the comments.

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PS: Those are our ducklings. Photo copyrighted.


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Trailing After God Giveaway!

The fan page made it to over 2,000 fans!

I’m flabbergasted that you all read what I have to say and more so when God uses my stories to reach others and I get a sweet private email from one of you! You have no idea how much you mean to me. Really. I hope I get to meet you in person some day.

So to celebrate, I’m giving away some books this week and maybe next. Enter to win my 31 day devotional, Trailing After God. TWO lucky winners will get a paperback copy. Contest ends April 2nd at midnight. Winner will be announced on April 3rd.
Please note, there are THREE mandatory entries. You MUST complete all three to be entered into this drawing.
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Distractions In Church – Whose Problem Is It Anyway?

a broken heart by devotionmama, on Pix-O-SphereSpiky pink hair. Hands raised in worship. Drums. Clapping. Dancing. Shouting. Clothes with holes. Dirt. Tattoos. Too much skin showing.

Just a small list of things folks complain about at church. They’re often referred to as distractions.

I can’t concentrate on worship when I see that.

I think it’s disgusting when people wear that or do that to their body.

I’d like to challenge you today if this thought has ever crossed your mind during a church service.

Whose problem is the distraction anyway? Who’s responsible for it? Is it truly the one doing the distracting? Or is the one being distracted responsible?

Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Proverbs 4:25

In this verse King David is telling us to keep our focus straight ahead, focused on God. We can apply this to church attendance. Are our eyes wandering because we don’t have our eyes fixed on the King of Kings? Once the eyes wander, so does the mind.

and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5

If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. Matthew 5:29

Ouch. Matthew certainly didn’t mince words. Gouging out your own eye is pretty extreme. By telling us to gouge out our own eye for sinning, Matthew brings the responsibility back on the owner of the eyeball. Bummer. It’s so much easier to place blame somewhere else.

When distractions come at church, and they will, it is your responsibility to refocus your attention. Stop watching the distracting person. Pray for God to help you focus on Him. Change seats if you need to. Change your attitude.

    • That woman dancing, clapping, and/or raising her hands in praise. Maybe she’s thrilled to finally be able to worship. She’s happy and rejoicing. Rejoice with her.

 

    • That guy’s mohawk or her pink hair. It’s just hair. Get over it.

 

    • That gal three seats over showing too much skin. Give her the benefit of the doubt. She may not have fully given her heart to Christ yet. She could be seeking. Maybe she really doesn’t know why she should cover up a bit more. Instead of judging her, perhaps you could befriend her. While it may be offensive or distracting to our sensibilities, God made our bodies naked. Satan brought sin and shame to them. *This is a whole other topic – Yes, I think modesty is important but hearts are more important. * Are You A Temptation To Other Men?

 

  • That guy with dirty clothes. Maybe he just got off work and came straight to church. Maybe he walked in off the street. Is it more important that he’s clean or at service? It’s just dirt, get over it. Were the disciples who walked with Jesus clean? I bet they were dusty with dirty feet much of the time. *I touch on this subject here >> Do You Prepare Your Heart Or Your Appearance For Church


Church isn’t a haven for the perfect but a hospital for the hurting.

Let’s set our eyes and our hearts on Jesus when we get to church tomorrow. Now that we’ve discussed this topic, be prepared for some distractions. Satan’s going to tempt you to pay attention to human flesh instead of the Holy Spirit. Don’t let that happen!

In Him,

 

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Hospitality and Cucumber Cups Stuffed with Spicy Crab

It’s Friday! We made it through yet another work week. I’m sharing a recipe today! One that is super easy to make and looks really pretty. Perfect for making for a get together at your home this weekend or taking with to a party or pot luck. Who doesn’t love a great recipe?

Friday’s, I will start featuring a yummy recipe. Next week it will be turtle cake. Is your mouth watering at the thought of chocolate and caramel? Mine is too! It’s that good.

I have joined Karen Ehman for her study on hospitality, A Life That Says Welcome. You can still join, we just started on Monday.

I want my life to say ‘welcome’, don’t you? I want my home to say welcome as well. That will take some work because well, to put it simply. I am domestically challenged. Oh, I can cook and I can clean but I am not good at keeping my house up in a way that allows for company to drop over without my insides flip flopping with humiliation. I’ve heard it mentioned as CHAOS. Can’t Have Anyone Over. Yep, that can be me but I am getting better!

I want to be able to invite guests over for dinner at the drop of a hat. If someone’s having a bad day, I want to say, “Come to dinner. Let me pamper you and your family with a meal.” But I can’t always do this.

And this is where shame creeps into my home. I’m ashamed that I don’t do a better job. That my kids’ bedrooms look like a tornado went through it, twice. And sometimes the bathroom needs more than a quick wipe down in order for someone to come over. I have three boys, enough said.

I’ve been working on it. I’m getting better. Yesterday I had company for dinner and I was able to get the house in acceptable order in about 45 minutes. Not bad. Now, I said acceptable. Kids bedrooms were still atrocious. I shut the doors. But for the most part it was good enough.

Good enough, is good enough for me most of the time. I grew up in a home that was always company ready and shiny clean but I felt like all we ever did was clean. So I have to find a balance. If folks are really coming to see your house and not you, that seems like an issue with them. But I know I have more to learn and more tweaks to continue to make. I’ll get there.

Do you struggle with keeping up a home that is company ready? Do you struggle with perfection or good enough? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Okay, okay, on to the recipe.

Cucumber Cups Stuffed With Spicy Crab:

I got this recipe from the lovely Domestic Fits. You can click here to get her beautiful recipe. Here is what mine looked like when finished.

 

 

 

 

 

Remember, next week, turtle cake. Chocolate. Caramel. Nuts. Hot. Melty. Unbelievable.

Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another–and all the more as you see the Day approaching. Hebrews 10:25

What is your favorite get together recipe?

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Dear Mel Vol30

 

Dear Mel:
My family won’t let my past stay in the past. I was young and stupid and did things I now regret. That was over 10 years ago! I’ve been clean and sober almost 10 years but some family members think I’m still that same girl and they treat me like crap and bring it up like it happened yesterday or like I’m still a user. What do I do? My mom is one of these people. You’d think she’d be happy for me but she’s not.
~Cleaned Up My Act ~

Dear Cleaned Up My Act:
It sounds like it’s time to have a sit down with each family member and talk this out. I might suggest doing it individually so that you don’t end up feeling ganged up on. Explain to them that while you did have a sordid past, it’s in the past and you have grown-up and moved on and they need to move on from that too. Stay calm and only state the facts. Ask them to forgive you for your past and to please let you now live in the present. Pray fervently before you approach them to ask to meet together and more so  before the meeting. If they are also believers, ask to open in prayer before you start talking.

I am praying your family can see who you are now and not who you were.

In Him,

 

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You’re Already Amazing & Giveaway!

It’s easy to forget how amazing we are. All those intricate details the creator put into motion so that you could be alive are breathtaking when we sit down and ponder them.

And sometimes we can’t even manage to think about those things because we’re in the hole so down deep that the light no longer permeates the darkness. Tunnel vision sets in.

Constant reminders of how we are failing as women, wives, mothers, and friends can shovel on the shame. We can convince ourselves that all the blogs, magazines, and other Christian media sources have it all figured out. Those writers have the perfect hum-dinger life we’re all striving and hoping for.

But as Renee Swope’s friend so eloquently put it, we compare our insides with other people’s outsides. The showy part with the make-up, pretty clothes, and fancy jewelry. The part that isn’t 100% the real person.

Often times, what we’re seeing is the aftermath of a hardship. They’ve been through some tough stuff and come out better for it but without asking the questions and listening to the answers, we may never know how they got where they are.

Satan wants to make you question yourself. Doubt yourself. Beat yourself up. Because when we focus on what we’re not getting right, we stop focusing on the cross. Our eyes become downcast, when what they desperately need is to be looking up, basking in His glory and promises.

In order to help you bask in the Son light, I want to offer a giveaway for Holley Gerth’s new book, You’re Already Amazing.  I know you all likely need this message but I can only send out one book and I pray that the one who it will speak to the loudest, wins this one!

And, because I’d like to offer a blessing to more of you, I have an offer for anyone who wants/needs it. I have a huge stack of encouraging cards and a roll of stamps. I will snail mail anyone who fills in their mailing information, a real paper card with a personal message. Yes, you can include a friend or someone who needs a pick me up. Just click HERE to request one. US Residents only. Sorry :(

Now go enter for this amazing book! It’ll bless your socks off and if you don’t win, please, put it on your wish list and purchase it for yourself or someone else soon.

PLEASE NOTE: There are TWO mandatory entries. If you don’t do both, it disqualifies you. Don’t let that happen!

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DaySpring Heart Connection Card Club

One of the things I enjoy most is encouraging others. That’s where this whole site started from. Real paper cards are one of the simplest ways we can encourage one another. It can be fairly inexpensive.

I have been blessed a couple of times to receive a prize packet of cards from DaySpring. And I joined their Heart Connection Card Club as well, so not only do I have beautiful cards to send out, I also have their lovely organizer that comes with your first pack of cards (which are also free) for free when you join.

Who doesn’t love getting a card in the mail? Especially when that person takes the time to hand write something special just to you on the inside?

It’s rare these days to even get a hand written letter. So, if you want to encourage someone today, send a card or write a letter. It doesn’t cost much to let them know you are thinking of them.

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.1 Thessalonians 5:11

*Don’t worry, I am working on the shame series!

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Shame – Part One

curls by lady_jess, on Pix-O-SphereWe can carry so much shame around, inside our heads and hearts. It’s a heavy burden. It keeps us secretive and from being authentic and vulnerable.

I have been pretty vulnerable here with some areas of my life, even some of the toughest areas but there are things that I don’t write about here and I realize now, it’s because shame has woven it’s way in and camped out, making it impossible to be completely vulnerable because of the risk.

Shame is not only something we put upon ourselves but it’s something we put on others as well. “If they knew this about me, they wouldn’t want to be around me” Does that thought sound at all familiar?

When someone has been vulnerable with you and shared something they are ashamed of, how did you respond? Did you scoot in closer, hug them, and encourage? Or did you offer advice or worse condemnation?

They way others react to our being vulnerable can temper whether or not we share anything else. It either proves that we’re right for feeling ashamed or it frees us to connect with others through being authentic and real.

Next week we’re going to talk about shame and vulnerability in a series. Stay tuned and feel free to share on this topic!

Do you struggle with shame? Do you think shame is something you put on yourself or is it brought on by others? Is shame biblical? Should we feel ashamed as Christians? Feel free to share in the comments below.

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23

*Watching a few videos by Brené Brown sparked this topic. – I don’t know if she’s a believer and she does swear once in both the videos I watched so be warned but what she had to say was worth listening to on both vulnerability and shame.

 

 

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Prayer Tips

black coffee by sisterlisa, on Pix-O-SphereSince the topic of prayer comes up so much in the lives of Christians everywhere, today we’ll focus on some tips for praying.

I’m often surprised by how many folks tell me that they don’t remember to pray and it’s an area of their faith they struggle with.

Tips for Prayer

  • When someone asks for prayer, do it right then and there. This can be tough for those of us who don’t feel really comfortable praying out loud but if you want someone to know that you will do what you say, do it. If it’s a serious situation, you don’t want to forget to pray later and it’s a huge benefit to the individual going through a tough spot. It makes us feel very special when someone stops everything to pray right then and there.
  • Find a time of day each day for prayer. It doesn’t matter where you pray, could be in the shower, driving (just don’t close your eyes),when you first wake in the morning or as you lay down for bed each night. Having a set time of day every day will make this an easy habit.
  • Keep a list of prayers. I have a dear friend who keeps prayer cards in her pockets, rubber banded together. They are always with her and she goes through them at least once per day, usually more. Her prayer cards are a tad bigger than a match book, making them fit easily into her pockets. Find a way that works for you to keep track of prayer requests. Don’t forget to write down the answers to prayer too! A small journal is a great way to keep track and to look back on.
  • Set reminders in your phone or computer. Does someone have a surgery coming up that they want prayer for? Schedule it and set the reminder in your phone or computer calendar so you won’t forget. I do this all the time and it helps me stay on top of those requests I might otherwise forget.
  • Pick a trigger to remind you to pray. Have something you want to pray fervently and frequently about? Choose a trigger item, such as, a certain color you see or each time you go to a sink in the house, you stop and pray. Sounds silly, but it does work!
  • Team up for accountability. Find someone who is willing to get together to pray with you or someone who will remind you to pray each day. But only do this if someone reminding you won’t become annoying.
  • Write it on your calendar or sticky notes. Just simply write the word PRAY where you will see it regularly.

Do you have tips for prayer? What works best for you? Is prayer an area you struggle with? Feel free to share in the comments box below.

Pray without ceasing. 1 Thessalonians 5:17

 

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Special Delivery by Kathi Macias – Review


With God, all things are possible. Even ending sex trafficking.

Once again Kathi Macias takes us on several journeys into human trafficking without being graphic in her latest book, Special Delivery.

We are introduced to several new girls, along with those we know from her first book in the series, Deliver Me From Evil. Lawan’s story continues in Thailand. Will she escape, unlike her older sister Chanthra?

Mara starts her life over, freed from slavery and finally living her life as an independent young woman. Will she be safe now that she’s sent her Tio to prison? Can she make it on her own? And will her life intertwine with the Flannery’s again? Will she be successful in helping another girl who is trapped as a sex slave?

I couldn’t put it down because I had to know the answers to these questions.

Kathi Mathias does an excellent job tackling such a delicate subject without cursing or explicit sexual content. She brings you easily into a world most of us would like to pretend doesn’t exist, but in a way that completely pulls you in and opens your heart and mind to the challenge our world is facing with the over 27 million human slaves in the world.

I challenge you to read this series and not have the story and its topic attach itself to the inner most part of your heart.

 

*Disclaimer*  I was given a free product to review.  No monetary compensation was received.  The opinions stated above are my own and I only endorse products that I honestly believe my readers will enjoy.  I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.


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