I have often times in my life been asked, “How did you know?” There is something obvious to me, at least with women, that I almost always pick up on. I can’t tell you exactly what it is. Mannerisms, facial expressions, attitudes, or what they say, that raises the red flag in my heart and tells me, this woman was sexually abused as a child.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not psychic or anything and I’m sure there are those I’d never know about. For some reason, God often peels back the scales of my eyes and allows me to pick up on this when I am around other women. While I hate having this in common with these women, I have felt very strongly that God has called me in some way to be involved with women who have suffered through this horrendous crime. While I have a few ideas on how to do this, I am waiting on the Lord to open those doors, should He decide to do so.
I want to empower women to tell the truth. Often times, we are told that we should not share that with others. I completely disagree. I did not do anything wrong and if that person is humiliated by what they did, that is too bad. They should be. Children do not ask to be sexually abused and they should never be asked to keep that dirty secret. It is not their secret to keep.
If we could just quiet ourselves enough to truly listen when someone speaks, I think so many would pick up on more than what is actually being said. When someone is overly aggressive in how they relate to people, take a second look. Maybe they appear to be a very negative person. Again, take a second look. I guarantee you there is more to their story than what you see on the outside. Maybe it’s not abuse of any sort but usually, there’s something there.
I don’t go around saying, “Guess what happened to me?!” to everyone I meet. Don’t get me wrong. This is not a metal or badge I flaunt. Talking about any of this on my blog is the most public arena in which I have shared.
Why? Because my own personal experience is that when I share my story, other women feel empowered and share their very personal stories! I have had several close friends tell me they have never told another living person! That is an honor for me. Though a sad honor because I would love more than anything for this to never happen to another person.
I also talk about this subject because it needs to be brought out of the darkness. I want to rob the power sexual abuse holds! Sexual abuse comes from Satan. If we do not bring the darkness to light, it continues to lie, torment, and abuse the victims.
Victims continue to abuse themselves mentally with what has happened to them. They will blame themselves; living in shame that does NOT belong to them! I have bought many of the lies whispered to me but this is one that I have always refused to accept or tolerate. I won’t take responsibility for someone else’s sickness. And if I am speaking to you now dear friend, neither should you!
When we finally speak the truth, God lifts a heavy burden from our shoulders. What Satan meant for evil, God can use for good.
It still hurts. It still sucks. We do not have to be held in chains and bondage to our victimization. It doesn’t have to be a life long sentence. If we are willing to do even the tiniest bit of work, God will take it the rest of the way! It is possible to stop hiding the truth and shame and live in freedom and peace. I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move.Nothing will be impossible for you. Matthew 17:20
I will be sharing my story as a series in the next few coming months. God’s done amazing things for me and I want to share them. I believe He has good things in store for his brokenhearted children.
Sweet, sweet sister in Christ, there is healing! I promise you that God can put a healing balm on your tormented heart if you let Him. You can be free!
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Part 2 – Confronting My Abuser
PS – This is a repost from melindatoad.com but because of it’s importance, I am republishing it with a new date so that others will see it. I pray that it will help even just one woman.