I am currently in a very unhealthy marriage. It has been this way for quite some time. My husband has a serious sexual addiction that has slowly destroyed our relationship. What started in pornography led to cyber-sex, then actual physical cheating. The pattern has been one that has gone on through years of marriage and 3 children. Every time an “”issue”" has been brought up, it has been me who has fought for our family and begged to keep our relationship intact. Most recently, my husband told me he felt our relationship was basically over and that he did not love me any more. It’s been about a month, and we are still technically married, but have not even begun to discuss the underlying issues behind his statement (and the break down of our relationship) because he refuses to talk to me about them. I know God is not a big advocate of divorce, but I also know that He does not want his children to needlessly suffer. I have been given all kinds of advice, but my question is: how are you supposed to know (in this type of situation where there is not necessarily a “”right”" or “”wrong”") if what you are feeling is God leading you or the devil trying to trap you?? (i.e. is God telling me to keep fighting for our family, or does the devil want to keep me here to keep his hold on my life? does God want me to be released from the suffering and protect my girls, or is the devil trying to destroy our family?)
Thanks for listening,
~ Confused ~
First, let me say how terribly sorry I am for what you are dealing with. My heart breaks for your family. I really prayed over what to say to you. What weighs heavy on my heart is for you to seek counseling from your pastor or other wise Christian counsel. Whether you and your husband end up divorced, you are going to need counseling and someone safe to talk to now.
It can be difficult to decipher the difference between the devil’s snare and God speaking. Pray for clear guidance and for protection from the enemy. Pray as you open your bible for God to speak clearly to you. This always amazes me how He will direct us to the right passage.
Do you have a group at church that you trust? I suggest having a group come in and pray over and bless your home. Satan has already infiltrated your family. You need to be prayed over as well as your marriage, your children, and your home.
I will be praying for you. If you need to talk further, please email me.
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